10 steps to a more confident you!
When was the last time you felt like you? Do you feel a bit lost, or like you’ve lost ‘it’?
We’d all like to feel a little more confident in our day to day lives and on different levels, from feeling confident enough to leave the house, to giving a speech in front of a large crowd.
Confidence is something that can’t be taught, but it can be encouraged.
Here at Moving Pictures, we pride ourselves in focusing on encouraging confidence and helping people feel empowered. We believe that everyone (yes, even you ) deserves to feel great and allow themselves to indulge in some time that is all about you. Sometimes, confidence gets in the way so, I have compiled 10 steps that I believe can help build confidence. Some of these steps I have seen work first hand, and others I have discovered, don’t work for everybody.
Treat it as a pick ‘ n’ mix but at least try all of them!
1: Do something every day that scares you
I don’t mean, do a bungee jump or going on a theme park ride, think smaller. Do you have trouble talking to new people? Next time you’re waiting for a train or on a bus, say hi to the person next to you. When you’re next in a shop, make small talk with a cashier as they are scanning your items or ask someone for the time, apply this is you are also uncomfortable talking on the telephone. Don’t send a text, ring. Afraid of spiders? You trap that thing!! Show it who’s boss.
If you start by overcoming small fears, getting over bigger ones will be a breeze.
I used to tell my students at school to put their hand up to answer a question or volunteer to do a task that they wouldn’t normally do. Once the initial move is made, there’s no going back!
“You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.” – We Bought A Zoo
2: Wear make up / change your hair
There is a common misconception that women (or men) wear make up to impress others – nuh-huh! (waves index finger across face) Make up changes how YOU feel about YOU.
I work from home and talk on the phone, but when I am dressed, with my make up done, even though no one will see me, I feel more ready and confident to talk.
If you feel you look good, that confidence will come across to others. I’m not talking full get up every day but, even a bit of tinted moisturiser and mascara can change your day! If you are not sure about make up – ask at a counter in a shop or do some research on you tube!!!
Also, try something new… have you been wearing the same colour eyeshadow since 1991? Change your habit – this is a bonus tip for confidence building! Ask in a store (yes, talk to a stranger) what colours would suit you – not what’s on trend but what works for you. This is what I like to call a two in one, approaching a stranger and changing your look! Talking about having the same eyeshadow for 25 years, when was the last time you spruced up your hairstyle?
It’s so easy to stick with what you know – go for a new look, it’s a guarantee for a few compliments being thrown your way “ooh I love your new hair!” and who doesn’t want that when they are trying to be more confident!?
3: Get clothes that fit!
One of the worst things about being a Women, is that clothing manufacturers rarely get it right, especially if like me, you are short and curvy! My wardrobe ranges from a size 10 -16. I used to get upset when I had to buy a bigger size but actually, clothing sizes have no real reflection on your actual size! It all depends on different materials and cuts. Make sure you wear what fits, it’s far more flattering than going with “your size” and again, if you feel good, it will help your confidence bloom.
(if it helps, cut sizes out once you have bought an item)
4: Take some time out for you.
Easier said than done I know. But if you can find time, even if its once a month. Have that long bath, go for a coffee, take a walk by yourself or read a book! Breathe, re coup and enjoy silence. Meditation, although not for everybody can really help relax and think through problems, take big breaths breathing in through your nose out through your mouth with your eyes closed several times works wonders, it’s only a small amount of time, but trust me…. It counts!
5: Surround yourself with positive people
Are your friends always moaning? Yet not doing anything to change what they are moaning about?
The 5 people you spend the most time with are the most influential to your mood and your decisions. Break the mould, be around people who are positive and have fun – warning this may include talking to new people – go on, you can do it!
Join clubs/classes of things that interest you and find people who enjoy the same things as you!
I joined the National Trust 2 years ago as me and my partner enjoy our walks and History and we have made some great friends just from walking through the woods!
I’m not saying ditch your besties but try and find a balance of ensuring you are getting a positive experience from friendships.
Read part two by clicking here!